As if regular gaslighting wasn't bad enough, am I right? Traditional gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation in which one person seeks to sow seeds of doubt in another's perceptions, memories, or beliefs, causing them to question their own sanity or judgment. Why would someone do this sh...

No one enjoys being in a tough and uncomfortable conversation or situation, but they are inevitable aspects of life that cannot be avoided. Whether it's a disagreement with a friend, a heated argument with a colleague, or an awkward confrontation with a family member, exiting these challenging inter...

Confidence and happiness often go hand in hand, with one leading to the other and vice versa. But why does having confidence lead to happiness and success, and how does happiness lead to increased confidence? As mentioned in my book Confident As Fu*k - confidence is not some fixed, anchored quality ...

Some spiritual teachers out there might say that secretly "enjoying that you are right" in a situation is falling victim to negative aspects of the ego. While our egos can be the culprit in a lot of our messy emotions, actions, and reactions, I believe that the ego is not something to be completely ...

Confidence is an essential aspect of our lives that greatly impacts how we perceive ourselves and the world around us. It plays a crucial role in determining our actions and decisions, especially when it comes to finding our life purpose and ultimately being fulfilled and happy - isn't that the end ...

Some people might think I have been rough on strangers who have tried to bully me. This is how I roll: if you are a stranger and bully me, I will engage my primal instincts to protect myself.

Only a couple of strangers in the past decade have experienced this and instantly regretted it. With those ...

Here is a common scenario: Joe asks Bob if he wants to go to a party on Saturday night and Bob launches into a laundry list of justifications and reasons as to why he can’t go; some of them may even be untrue. Maybe Bob just doesn’t feel like it - but because he’s not confident, he thinks a simple, ...

At the age of 22, I sustained a permanent hand/arm disability (read the full story in part 4 of my book Confident As Fu*k) and then 10 years later I suffered from debilitating, mistreated hypothyroidism. Ooooo I was mad! Getting hit with two debilitating physical issues in my life before the age of ...

If you want to untangle some of your personal conundrums in life - start to turn your attention to your subconscious mind. Your subconscious mind can be envisioned as a vast pool of thoughts, memories, and emotions that exist outside of your conscious awareness. Despite being largely out of your con...

I am not religious but I have some great news for you if you believe in the traditional understanding of a God. Let me show you how your religious beliefs can actually help you increase confidence and self-esteem.

“If you want confidence, then understand how much you matter to God. If God loves you...

Pro tip: Stop interfering and messing with other people’s confidence unless you want yours to be messed with. Whenever you shake your head about another person and say to yourself sarcastically, “Yeah right, good luck with that,” you are being a downer. Whether or not it is spoken, those negative th...

Aside from the thoughts you think about yourself, you have self-defeating thoughts about others sometimes too. Those internal thoughts go something like, "Yeah good luck with that" when a friend tells you about a new business plan or a new relationship, etc.

WE HAVE ALL THOUGHT "DOWNER THOUGHTS" AB...